Gender Difference Essay Research Paper I was

Gender Difference Essay, Research Paper

I was surprised finding out that the topic for our paper was about our

feelings of

belonging to the other gender. I think the title of the book “Men are From

Mars, Women

are From Venus” by John Gray applies to how different men and women are in

their

attitudes, feelings and lifestyles. This experience for me will be enjoyable

for me since I

have never thought what it would be like to be a female and also to hopefully

give me a

better insight on a few questions that have interest me about women since I

was a little

kid.

Both, men and women, are constantly concerned about looking “good” even

though they are physically different. In order to look appealing to others,

men are

supposed to be big, strong, and athletic, whereas women are supposed to be

thin, pretty,

and big-breasted. I often wonder why we put so much emphasis on the way a

person

looks. I think females feel more of the pressures of looking “good”. In the

past, I’ve

talked to some of my girlfriends and they told me that the pressure and

competition they

are faced with is stressful and painful. I told them that I am not too

critical when

checking out girls and when it comes to seeing other males bigger or stronger

than

myself, that I don’t feel too much pressure of trying to look better than

them. I am rather

more concerned of my own health and ways to improve it. I was really

surprised when

they told me that other girls are the ones who usually criticize or pressure

them. When I

was aware of this, I did notice, at times, while walking around casually with

my girl

friends, when they weren’t looking appropriate, would get stares, hisses or

comments

from other females. I was even surprised when I heard my girlfriends talking

about other

girls right in front of me, even though most of these times I didn’t notice

anything wrong

or different about the other girls they were talking about. From this

observation, I think

the pressure of always looking good would be greater if I was to be a female.

I would

always try to look good and to please others. Girls, I think, are faced with

enormous

pressures to look good. Television, for example, almost never features old,

heavy, or

unattractive women. Even if a character is a doctor or a scholar on

television, she looks

like a Playboy bunny.

When it comes to sexuality, I think there is great confusion for both males

and

females. One contributing factor is the double standard still existing. For

instance, the

same girls who are pressured to having sex on a Saturday night are called

“sluts” and

“hoes” on Monday morning. The boys, or the “studs”, who coaxed them into sex

at the

parties avoid them in the halls at school. Also, our society doesn’t have

clearly defined

and universally accepted rules about sexuality. We live in a pluralistic

culture with

contradictory sexual paradigms. We hear diverse messages from our families,

our

churches, our schools and the media, and each of us must integrate these

messages and

arrive at some value system that makes sense to us. Another reason there is

confusion is

that we are taught by movies and television that sophisticated people are free

and

spontaneous while we are being warned that casual sex can kill us. Double

binds and

impossible expectation trap us.

Becoming a female Asian Catholic, I think my parents and older siblings would

be more protective of me. I am the youngest of 7 boys and 2 girls. I still

remember times

when my younger sister was my age and the trouble she sometimes faced to just

go out

on a date or with her friends. Sometimes she would ask me to tag along with

her so my

parents would think she was out with me. During these times, I remember

worrying

about her safety even though I am 8 years younger than she is. I can’t

imagine how hard

it would be for me if I was a girl and the baby of the house. I would

probably have to

hear the words “curfew” or “be home at ten” for the first time without

laughing. I would

definitely remember all the times I have taken for granted such as being able

to freely go

out and not get in trouble, when I was a boy.

Another thing I would be concerned with, if I was a girl, is sex and

violence.

Since females are on average smaller than males they are more prone to sexual

attacks

such as rape. In one of my psychology courses, I was surprised when the

professor asked

her students to raise their hands if they were or knew a person who has been a

victim of

rape and mostly all o

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