Parental Pressure Within High School Students Essay

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Parental Pressure within High School Students

I.I became interested in this topic because my entire academic life has

been filled with pressure from my parents. This pressure was mainly in school

and grades, and in high school, the amount of pressure increased dramatically.

This is because my parents now realized that everything in high school counts

towards college. When I first came to high school, my grades were not as good

as they were in middle school. I needed a little time to adapt to high school

before I could improve my grades. During this time, my parents became upset

because I brought home a report card that was not as good as they were expecting.

Then I really noticed the pressure getting higher and higher. I did not only

notice this with me, but I noticed this with many of my friends. I heard

phrases like ?My parents are going to kill me? and ?I’m going to be grounded for

10 years? many times so when the opportunity to do research on this came up, I

chose this as my subject.

II. How does parental pressure influence students in high school? If there

is an influence, is it positive or negative? I would like to do research on

this because it raised my curiosity. For me personally, I do better in school

if I am calm and have little pressure, but there might be students out there at

Ramapo High School that think differently. These are some of the things that I

will try to find out through this I-Search.

III.At the beginning of my search, I had a really hard time finding

secondary sources. First, I went to the school library. Since the school

library has this computer program called BELS, there was no need to go to the

other libraries. BELS is a program that lists all the books in Franklin Lakes,

Wyckoff, and Oakland. It is a network that unites the two public libraries and

the one in Indian Hills. I then went to an article search. I had no luck here

either. When I went home, I went on America Online to try to find some articles

or any secondary sources. I went to the article search and still found nothing.

After a few days, I asked the school librarian to help me find some books. She

guided me to a section that had books about social problems. Luckily, I found

two books on families and parents. These were two good books, but I still

needed at least one more to fulfill my requirement. I went to the Special

Services department and talked to a person there. She gladly offered help. She

said that she would look through her stuff and try to find what she could on

this subject. Then she told me to come back after school to pick up whatever

she had. I returned after the school day ended and went back to the Special

Services department. She was waiting there with two books and an article.

Although I found that one of the books that I was given was not a real good help,

the others were. My secondary sources were finished and now I had to move on to

my primary sources. These were much easier because I did not need to search for

anything. I interviewed two classmates during some free time I had in class,

and put out a survey. These also helped a lot in giving me information I could

use. Since I had all of my sources, I then proceeded with the notecards.

IV.Do parents of high school students put too much pressure on their

children? The students would probably say yes, and the parents would probably

say no. Parents would probably say that they just want the best for their

children. Sometimes, though, this ?good cause? leads into disaster when the

parents take it too far. This could be by the fault of the parent or the child.

This means that either the child provokes the parent by doing badly in school,

or the parents do not become satisfied with the child’s achievement and takes

over their lives.

When the parents concentrate on grades alone, they become like a

dictator and not a friend. They do not care about anything else such as social

problems and sports (Webb pg.24). This causes the child to overachieve. This

means that the child thinks that the only way he/she can get the affection and

respect of his/her parents is to bring home good grades. At this point,

anything that does not deal with grades or academics is worthless to the child,

and furthermore the child does not care (Webb pg.25). When this happens, the

child focuses so much on grades, he/she misses out on being a normal teenager.

This includes going out with friends, dances, hobbies, and sports. Also, the

child feels lonely and ends up having to practice growing up and being an adult

by herself because his/her parents do not care (Webb pg.26). Sometimes parents

get so caught up with their child’s grades that they always ?check over? their

homework when all they are doing is doing it for them. The teachers notice this

and punish the student and not the parent (Gaillard). Klagsbrun(19

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